just finished watching "music and lyrics" - finally. and as usual, it's one of those feel-good movies that make you feel all "ohhhhhh" nice and woozy after. but hey i'm a sucker so i shall keep my mouth shut. but truly, if you think about it, no matter how much one apparently rejects this whole lovey dovey notions of romantic love, slamming soppy love songs by boybands and the like, i believe that everyone wants a piece of it deep down inside. no one wants to admit to enjoying watching TITANIC, or liking james blunt's "you're beautiful", yet everyone is constantly seeking for that special someone that can awaken the special feelings they have inside. the whole butterflies in stomach, constant rush of adrenaline and happy hormones drama.
the best memories in a relationship occurs during the courtship stage, where both parties are still trying to get to know each other; when three-hour phonecalls and continous sms-es back and forth are their staple diets. sure, couples may talk about how their growing together in the relationship is the ingredient that makes their relationship stronger and better. but think about it, who doesn't want to go back to the time when disagreements hardly surface because both are too consumed by the notions of love and passion to disagree? i'm not saying that we should all have all these skeletons in our closets and suppress all disagreements in a bid to maintain a superficially harmonious relationship. but really, when the going gets tough in a relationship, it's sometimes the best memories we have in the beginning that reminds us how precious the other party is to us, and how much we'd rather minimise the bad times and maximise the good times. but i digress.
so what exactly is love? it's easy saying i love you over and over again, but truly, what does loving mean? my mom once told me that love is the yardstick to measure how much shit you can take from your other half. that is to say, even if your other half annoys you to hell, if there is love, you will find some way and space and moments in your heart to forgive and tolerate him. and this is not once or twice, but over time.
hence when you say "i love you" to someone, it's reflective of your feelings towards him at this particular moment. but unknowingly, you are also laying down a promise of tolerance and acceptance of his flaws and giving out advance forgiveness and apologies you will extend upon future disagreements. unless of course, you'd rather say something like, "i love you now" or "i love you at this moment in time". but we're getting a little too technical here.
my intention is to get away from just the notion of love, so i can find the real meaning of love, to my interpretation. poetry and romance are bonuses, icing on the cake, but it's the ingredients that matter. and life is a continuous journey in search of that perfect interpretation, though active searching is equivalent to shooting yourself in the foot. for it will find you, when the time comes.
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